"Listen, I Love You"

A Reparenting Practice That Rewrites Your Inner Voice

Many of our parents’ words became our inner dialogue. They shaped the voice in our head. The way we speak to ourselves. The way we meet challenge. The way we meet ourselves.

So I want to share something I read recently:

“Listen, I love you. You are one of the smartest people I know. You can accomplish anything with your grit, your perseverance, and your intelligence. I’m so proud of you, and I have no doubt that you are going to be able to do whatever you wish.Know that I will always be there for you, no matter what.”

Many of us never heard words like these consistently while growing up. And that absence leaves a quiet imprint.

This is where reparenting begins.

Not by blaming or resenting our parents, but by gently becoming the loving, steady, encouraging voice we once needed.

Because if the inner voice remains critical, harsh, or doubtful, it doesn’t matter how capable we are — life will keep feeling heavier than it needs to be.

Reparenting means consciously changing that voice.

So when you face adversity in pursuit of your goals, instead of hearing: “You’re not good enough,” you begin to hear:

“I believe in you.I love you. I am here for you.I am here to listen. I am here to understand you.I am here to support you.I am here to help you. No matter what.

I love you unconditionally. You can do this. You can do anything.”

Become the loving, steady, encouraging voice you once needed.

If you never heard words like this growing up,you can start saying them to yourself.

Every day. Out loud or silently.

Because the mind and nervous system learn through repetition. Repetition is the mother of learning.

Some simple ways to practice:

• Put these words on a post-it (mirror, bathroom, fridge, desk).

• Set them as your phone wallpaper.

• Record yourself saying them and listen while walking or resting.

• Write them in your journal each morning.

• Say them gently to yourself during the day.

• And if you have children, start saying these words to them too.

  
  

The more familiar these words become, the easier it is to receive them.

Little by little, something softens. Something rewires. Something heals.

With Love,

Flora

This simple reparenting practice supports emotional healing by helping you consciously rewrite your inner voice and build healthier self-talk patterns.